I’m 24. I’m not perfect, I’m not ready to be a parent, but if anything ever happened and I wound up being a full time parent of any number of kids tomorrow, I can honestly tell you I’d be able to do it. Sure i’d be stressed, I’d need aid, and my life would be turned upside down, but I would do everything in my will to make sure no real harm came to the kids.
I’m a full time nanny for 3, and babysit for other families with 4, 3, 2 and even 7 kids. I do have a little bit of advantage. Even without my 13 years of experience (holy crap my cousin Gavin is 13!!!) I can honestly tell you I would do everything I could to provide for and protect any child in my care.
We have rough days, K-man is going through some things right now and lies constantly, so much so that I don’t trust anything he says anymore. D-monster refuses to share any of his toys, and is constantly taking things away from Baby S. Some days Baby S refuses to nap, others she smears and throws her food on the floor. NOTHING these kids can do will EVER make me stop loving them. No matter what is going on, no matter what has happened, I look into their eyes and am erupting with love, we always end anything in a hug. So what if Baby S wants to carry my keys all over the house, so what if we’ve been late to school because we can’t find my keys. K-man lies, at the end of the day no matter what has gone on, they’re still family and they are all still there for each other.
So when I read articles about parents shooting their children over welfare, and Babies going missing from their mom’s abandoned car it makes me sick to my stomach. Kids are just that. KIDS. They’re children. They LEARN from us, WE teach them. So if your kid is lying to you, sneaking behind your back, or even just losing your keys in the morning. It’s up to you to show them an open heart, teach them to be honest, loyal, faithful, responsible. Don’t hold them to gunpoint to try and make a point to the United States government. (Only to kill your self and your children in the end.)
What is going on here? Why isn’t Sky’s mom in JAIL? If my car ran out of gas in the middle of the night and I had D-monster (4) and Baby S (1) in my car, I would bundle them BOTH up, regardless of their sleep status, or if they had a cold, and they would COME with me to the gas satiation (okay well in reality I’d call AAA). NEVER in my wildest dreams would I leave a child UN-attended in a car while I walked a mile to a gas station. No mother would. No Loving mother that is.
In the article I linked, states that she ADMITTED to leaving him. She was PROVED a liar, by the Bellevue police when they found out her car had NOT ran out of gas like she said. Why is she free? Why is she still free to roam around and not locked up for clearly committing a crime.
Now back to the title of this post. Shows like that have taught me that the longer a child is missing, the more likely they are no longer alive. So I repeat my former question. Why hasn’t the Bellevue, Redmond, or even King County police/sherrif’s stations done anything? Why isn’t she in custody, being questioned, she knows something and is hiding it. Why are we allowing her to hide out in an un-known hotel? Why isn’t this big news anymore?
Everywhere I go, even here in Sammamish, all you see are posters of this poor boy. His face is everywhere and no one has found him. No one has reported seeing him. My gut says this poor little boy was killed. My gut tells me his mom has everything to do with it. Something horrible happened. No city is exempt from crime, but I do know that people here are nicer than in other areas, and I have faith that if someone had seen this boy they’d have gone to the police and reported it.
Have you been following the news? Do stories like this make you sick? Why is it that it seems everyone has stopped caring about baby Sky? Why isn’t anyone doing anything about situations like these??? If you’re reading this and know something about Baby Sky, or any of the hundreds of children missing all over the world, PLEASE GO TO THE POLICE. these children do not deserve any of this!
I’m super super stressing right now and not even sure what to do. yay? One of the weddings I’ve been most excited for. Lets just hope I don’t ever have to break the news that I can’t come. I think I’d be more upset than anyone else though, I’m really looking forward to watching the two of them exchange their vows!
it’s bed time. I work bright and early tomorrow morning.
Christmas is over, and I honestly couldn’t be happier. The one day of the year I had been really looking forward to was a train wreck. I had hoped it would look something like this:
Christmas eve started off decent, we had Christmas morning with our roommate, and went out to do some last-minute shopping as well as went out for a delicious meal at the a local pub. It didn’t go down the drain until after we had arrived to EverSoLightly’s aunt’s house. For the second year in a row I had to sit and ignore snide rude comments from his older sister, and once we got in the car his little sister had a dramatic break down which was (according to her) my fault. She claims I “took” her brother “away from” her when in reality she’s a selfish brat who never ever wants to spend time with him.
For the second year in a row EverSoLightly and I hardly slept and had to force ourselves out of bed to be the “mature” ones in the situation, go to his house and pretend nothing happened and that we weren’t both hurt, embarrassed by the actions of others, and angry. Christmas Morning wasn’t so bad, and his dad and little sister hid out for most of the day before dinner so we just hung out and played Nintendo monopoly and a few other games with his mom, it was nice. She really does have a big heart, it’s just too bad her whole family hadn’t gained that same wonderful quality. we had dinner, and I, per usual, said something that upset his dad, whom then got mad and hid out again for the rest of the night, I honestly think he’ll have a chip on his shoulder for the remainder of my life even though I didn’t do anything to deserve that terrible treatment. Then, last night EverSoLightly was up all night throwing up – poor guy must be allergic to crabs. He was really really sick all night. He’s at his sister’s house taking care of her dogs, and I’m house sitting as well about 30 minutes away from him. I hope he’s feeling better today 😦
That was seriously everything we did this weekend. It sucked and we’ve both decide that next year, we’ll be handling things a lot differently and won’t be surrounding ourselves with negative attitude on the holidays.
these past two days are EXACTLY the reason I refused to go to his parent’s house for Thanksgiving, and I’m not sure I’ll be comfortable spending holidays with them again in 2011. 3 Christmases down the drain because of others actions, I will not allow that to happen next year. I guess all i can do is sit and hope they change in the next 12 months….
Happy Novem–wait. How is it ALREADY November? You’re kidding me right? Does that mean I get to put up Christmas decorations now? I mean since it’ll be the blink of an eye when everyone else will be putting theirs up… I’m honestly very tempted to put ours up now, though I’m in serious need of all of my decorations and most of them are still at my mom’s house 😦 sad day for sure.
I’m currently suffering from flu-like symptoms, but not actually THE flu. Not sure how to stop it, I’ve been taking a few meds but other than that, nothings changed. No fever, and no one else seems to be getting it from me…Maybe I have winter allergies? who knows, I certainly won’t know, I don’t have insurance and this beautiful country I live in seems to think that means I can’t see a doctor. Before those of you who are trying to help tell me that the state offers insurance, let me inform you, I have looked into it, and the insurance they say I “qualify” for is 45.00 a month, and ONLY covers one dr. visit a year, as well as having a 25.00 co-pay and doesn’t cover meds. So sure it’d help me know I was sick, but wouldn’t ever help me get better, because by forking over 45.00 a month, and then a 25.00 co-pay I’d be too poor to be able to afford the prescription. Soooo here I sit.
I’ve switched things around here, as I’m sure you see, It’s not finished, but it’ll do for now. What do you think so far?
I have this constant need to remind those around me that I am 23 and contrary to their beliefs I’ve been taking car of myself for years now, I’m fully capable of cleaning up after myself and taking care of myself regardless of what other young adults my age can or cannot handle.
I make a huge point to not get mixed up in anything I wouldn’t do. I didn’t start drinking anything with alcohol in it until I was 22, and even then I hardly drank anything. I don’t like the people I hang out with to smoke, ANYTHING, and the few friends I have known that have, know to not do it around me. I work with children and I want to make sure my life isn’t something I’d have to hide from anyone else. I don’t see the appeal to people to get into stuff that could or will get them into trouble.
What is the whole appeal to the “bad guy” rough exterior? Why is it that so many people I know and love are lowering their standards to “fit in” or have the “college experience.” Another thing that bothers me is parents who “parent” unfairly. Gender should not change the way you act when your child acts out. Regardless of their gender if your 14 year old is not only posting facebook statuses about getting drunk and partying, and has come home drunk on more than one occasion, you should punish them. Instead letting them get away with it seems flat out stupid. I get that girls can go out and do things and end up pregnant, but she doesn’t get there alone. Not all girls are slutty, and I think some parents don’t know how to balance on that fine line between not parenting enough and being too strict. I felt like my mom did a wonderful job. I know parenting is hard and its no walk in the park but if you’re a parent then its your job to make sure your child (regardless of their age) is safe, and feels comfortable at home. I never had to sneak out because I never did anything that needed to be “hid” from my mom. I hold the people I spend my time with to these same high standards and I expect anyone entering my home would respect that. Alas, however some do not.
Did you know that opening someone else’s mail without their consent is punishable by law? I’m sure most of you knew that, but it seems not everyone does. Did you know that its a federal offence punishable by up to 10 years in prison OR $250,00, because it is. Not only that, you can’t even fight it. If someone finds you’ve gone through their mail, regardless if YOU feel it is necessary or not. don’t worry about EverSoLightly & me though, we would file a report with the police if it happened once. And if It happened a second time we’d file an official report, I don’t care what the situation is, no one has a “right” to do that. NO ONE. I did even more research an 100% of the time, even if it is a bill for something in the place in which you live, work or frequent, if your name isn’t on it & you open it without permission, you still get more than just a “stern” talking to.
I know this was my Facebook status, but just because you think you own the world and are better than everyone else doesn’t mean you actually are. Also, just because you are (or went to) in college, does NOT by any means mean you are smarter, nor does it mean you’re better than the rest of the world. Don’t walk around looking down on people, just because you think you know everything. That’s a good way to kill off your friendships and even professional and business relationships. Going to college does not mean you know what the “real” world is like. <<< True Facts right there.
Kids are acting WAY older than they should, in a BAD way. Getting high/drunk & having sex at 13 is a poor decision and parents don’t seem to care like they use to.